John Gray, the best selling author wrote, 'Men are from Mars and
Women are from Venus'. The insights he gave into psychology of men and women
dis help a whole lot of us improve our relationships. Obviously the question then
arose, if men are from Mars and Women are from Venus then children are from?
John himself gives the answer – children are from Heaven!
A raging debate arose over this philosophical approach at one of my
sessions. One teacher remarked , “ this is a fine American paradigm”. Another
teacher quipped, “it‟s a wonderful philosophy for a counselor but when one
enters the classroom this philosophical approach is not practical”. A docile
group of teachers suddenly seemed to have become aggressive!
I don’t claim to give easy answers to the myriad disciplinary difficulties we
encounter daily in the classrooms. But it’s worth reading reflectively John Gray’s
‘children are from Heaven’.
* Children listen to their parents when parents learn how to listen to their
children. (do we give enough time)
* When children are in control, they are out of their parent’s control. (Are
mobile and other gadgets we give lollipops?)
* Children cannot develop patience or learn to delay gratification if everything
comes their way when they want it. ( Be careful when you generously say
„yes‟ to ice creams and burgers!)
* Adjusting one’s will and wish is called cooperation, submitting one’s will and
wish is obedience. (Are we seeking cooperative children or obedient
children?)
For our children to grow strong and confident they need particular kinds of
struggle and a particular kind of support. Our job as parents and educators is to
support our children in special ways so that our children become stronger and
healthier. If we interfere and make it too tough then we deprive them of what they
need to grow.
So this is my prayer : May our children grow up confident, cooperative and
compassionate in this competitive and aggressive world.
Love, Prayers & Wishes,
D.Samuel Seelan
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